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ids don’t automatically know how to build an argument. When they feel upset or unheard, they may resort to silence or shouting. But with your guidance, they can learn that reason isn’t about control—it’s about clarity. When you help them organize their ideas, explore causes, and respond with fairness, you show that logic is a way to connect, not just correct. These moments form the scaffolding for their voice—in teams, debates, and everyday conflicts.

One night, my daughter and I disagreed about whether bedtime should be later now that she was older. Instead of shutting it down, I asked her to make her case. She brought up her schedule, pointed out how she was handling responsibilities, and offered a compromise. We didn’t extend bedtime much—but we did change our routine, and she felt heard. That conversation taught her that reason isn’t about winning—it’s about being taken seriously.

Start by treating even small disagreements as chances to model reasoned talk. Ask your child to explain their point, then respond with curiosity, not correction. Let them challenge ideas respectfully—even yours. When they see that reason is stronger than volume, and that good arguments matter more than rank, they begin to speak—and listen—with intention.

TIPS

• Ask your child to explain their thinking, even when you disagree.
• Show that a well-made point matters more than being “right.”
• Keep tone respectful and open, especially in disagreements.

ACTIVITIES

• Reason Round: Choose a simple opinion question (“Should bedtime be later?”). Take turns stating a view and supporting it with reasons.
• Change My Mind: Invite your child to try persuading you on something. If they use strong reasoning, shift your position to show it worked.