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riendly arguments do more than stir opinions—they give children a voice. Too often, kids are taught to avoid disagreement, but practiced well, argument builds confidence, clarity, and command. It prepares them to hold their view in class, clubs, and crowds—not to dominate, but to speak with presence.

One evening, my daughter declared a book character “the greatest of all time.” I challenged her: “Why?” Her first answers were vague—“She’s cool,” “She’s brave.” But with time, she sharpened her case. That moment wasn’t just literary—it was rehearsal. She began speaking more clearly in school discussions, no longer shrinking back when challenged.

Help your child speak up in public or group settings. Let them lead a family discussion, defend a movie opinion at dinner, or run a mini-presentation on a favorite topic. Praise clear points, ask follow-ups, and model poise. Over time, they’ll grow not just skilled in thinking, but bold in speaking.

TIPS

• Pick engaging topics to spark arguments.
• Model clear reasoning to show how to argue.
• Praise their logic to boost confidence.

ACTIVITIES

• Hero Talk: At dinner, ask, “What makes a character you like special?” Discuss for 15 minutes to hone thinking.
• Point Talk: At family time, ask, “What is your case for this?” Discuss for 10 minutes to encourage clarity.